Dating women with close girlfriends
In Hollywood terms, I’m still only the kooky (ugh) sidekick – the leading lady has to meet the man of her dreams and settle down before the final credits roll or the universe will collapse in on itself, but at least I’m allowed to exist.But there’s a condition to my singleness – I’m allowed to have no man, as long as we have an assortment of (equally kooky – argh I’m putting a moratorium out on that word) friends to commiserate with.“Nick defends Julia as “one of those girls who doesn’t have a lot of girlfriends because she thinks like a guy.” Obviously, this is a huge red flag: Girls who don’t like other girls are the worst, in the logic of New Girl and, also, in life..”.) Related: Girl Code and Dating: The Official Rules Bad for Guys…Guys, you might not really be bothered by a girl’s lack of close female relationships: there’s something really appealing about a low-maintenance girl who can hold her own with all your guy friends. She'll love you with all her heart and soul too; we just mean the F when we say BFF. She probably has more than one best friend and you better know the difference.
And, even if you aren’t the jealous type, are you really going to be okay with her hanging out and confiding in other guys, night after night after night?Just to ensure we’re cliché-ing our asses off, we also go for brunch sometimes. So yes, I find forming friendships with other women easy, and always have done – but why do we always pretend this is the case for everyone, all the time?We’re starting to realise that we can’t have it all, and that marriage and babies isn’t for everyone, but when are we going to accept that female friendship isn’t the cornerstone of every woman’s life?But a girl who has no girl friends whatsoever should set off warning bells.
(We don’t mean a tomboy…tomboys have female friends!D., another couples therapist, agreed that people should prioritize their partners' security over their friendships.